Tuesday, September 13, 2005

WHAT did you say to me?

If you ever thought I was a Defensive Delores - please make the journey to my workplace and I will introduce you to MEGA defensive Angie, our Marketing Director.
I am the Alpha female here (not to mention the only female besides Kathy our processor - who is totally cool) until Angie came here in July and thought she was going to challenge my role in the pack(pack= the employees here). When you are new in the pack you learn very quickly who I am and what I do here - and you respect that. I can only assume that before Angie transferred to this office from being a telemarketer in the St. Cloud location she was prompted on the situation with the position of Marketing Director and myself.

Situation = Stacy interviewed for the position before they were even considering firing the current MD(marketing director). My boss overheard me talking to Stacy on the phone about the position and assumed that I was giving Stacy information about the company's daily success in the TM room, which for some reason he didn't like ( I mean what does he think? That Stacy is going to take this information to one of our competitors and tell them how BAD we are doing? c'mon) Where in actuality I was telling Stacy what kind of people generally work in that position and where we place employment ad's and what kind of response we get. So he got mad and me (for nothing) completely hurt and embarrassed me at work and I was so offended I started crying (which I NEVER do at work - not in three years had I cried here (I have too much pride - another of my many faults)) I told my boss that I didn't do anything wrong and I barely spoke to him the rest of the day. Needless to say the outcome was that Stacy didn't get hired (not because of that situation but because they would rather hire within when they can - so they hired Angie from the St. Cloud office) I completely understood and was happy just to have a replacement for the current MD who was horrible.

Contd. - SO Im sure that someone told Angie I was mad that my friend wasn't hired and she was - which was completely not the case. I was totally excited to get a new MD whoever it may be - and especially another girl (because as you read above - I've been the only girl in here for a while and sometimes feel discriminated against because of the fact that I am a woman - but that's a whole nother post) So Angie came in here - with her head held high obviously prepared to "take me on" whatever I was to dish out to her unfairly. Gosh I hate boys sometimes. Why do they assume girls are so catty? Don't answer that. The fact is I was looking to be friends - and help her fit in to her new position. WOW did she ever make that difficult. I did have to knock her down a few pegs several times in order to show my dominance. She soon realized that Im not here for competition or to control everything - Im like the wise mother who has been-there-done-that/don't-have-time-for-this-drama-crap/you-can-come-to-me-for-the-answers-and-support kind of person here. And when you step to me with your I'm-going-to-take-over-this-place-and-get-what-I-want-when-I-want-it-and-if-you-get-in-my-way-or-have-anything-to-say-about-it-I-will-show-you-how-big-and-bad-I-can-be, Im gonna have to take off my shoes and earrings and smack a bitch into her place!
Angie and I are totally cool now- she realized her status and now knows her boundaries in the pack. I think her swelled head from being promoted is almost normal size again and she has returned from her month long power trip. Which I'm glad to see.
I think its that we are a lot alike in our work personalities - we are both assertive, scrappy, defensive, authoritative and a bit bitchy at some times. That's where there was a clash. She has learned a lot - but apparently grasshopper has some more to learn because her defensiveness is almost out of control. Trav agrees she's waaaaaaaaaaayyyyy to defensive. almost immaturely defensive - and that's saying a lot coming from someone as admittedly defensive as I.
all I have to say is - wow.
So again today, I had to knock her down a few pegs, she asked me if I was having a bad day today or something and I was like - No, Defensive Denise, don't act so dumb. I didn't say that but I will if it keeps up.
Anyways - Angie's cool and we get along, she knows that I can help her in many ways and is humble enough to come to me with her needs - which I respect - because I know its not easy when you are like us to ask for help.
Posted by Katrina :: 2:54 PM :: 0 Chortles

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